Pete read this poem by Dorothy Law Nolte on the air during the final minutes of the show. He also admonished parents who do not have a copy of it hanging on a wall in their house, which might’ve been a wee bit harsh. Anyway, on one hand, I agree with him that the poem is really… well… sweet. On the other hand, it seems kind of wrong in a few places, even to my bleeding heart.
If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn.
If children live with hostility, they learn to fight.
If children live with fear, they learn to be apprehensive.
If children live with pity, they learn to feel sorry for themselves.
If children live with ridicule, they learn to feel shy.
If children live with jealousy, they learn to feel envy.
If children live with shame, they learn to feel guilty.
If children live with encouragement, they learn confidence.
If children live with tolerance, they learn patience.
If children live with praise, they learn appreciation.
If children live with acceptance, they learn to love.
If children live with approval, they learn to like themselves.
If children live with recognition, they learn it is good to have a goal.
If children live with sharing, they learn generosity.
If children live with honesty, they learn truthfulness.
If children live with fairness, they learn justice.
If children live with kindness and consideration, they learn respect.
If children live with security, they learn to have faith in themselves and in those about them.
If children live with friendliness, they learn the world is a nice place in which to live.
So what do you think of this? Is it a good thing to teach kids that “the world is a nice place in which to live?” I mean, is that even true? Maybe we should be teaching them it’s their responsibility to make it such a place. I mean, the hostility line is definitely true, but do we really never want to criticize kids? Anyway, I suspect I agree with this poem a whole lot more than many PBM listeners. In fact, I’m a little surprised that Pete likes it so much, since he has talked several times on the air about how constant praise and approval by parents renders children weak. Or something like that. I figured this one would stir up some good debate, so let’s hear your reviews.